Category: Positive Discipline

Things to say instead of "stop crying"/Qué decir en lugar de "deja de llorar"

2/25/2021

As parents, we get to deal with big emotions everyday. And sometimes, in the heat of the moment, we might find ourselves using some less than positive phrases to address those emotions. "Stop crying, " for example, doesn't tell an upset child that he will be ok, instead, it tells him that his feelings aren't important and that you are not ok with his pain.

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Negative Versus Positive Language/Lenguaje Negativo versus Lenguaje Positivo

2/1/2021

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Limiting negative language like “no,” “don’t”, and “stop” is an important part of positive discipline. It’s all about lessening their use to rewire our children's brains for positivity and offering clear instructions and choices.

Below are some alternatives to common phrases that will help you through some of those difficult moments when you want to react with frustration instead of love.

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Create your own calming wheel of choice/crea tu propia rueda de opciones de calma

1/27/2021

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Focusing on solutions is one of the primary goals of Positive Discipline, and children are great at focusing on solutions when they are taught the skills and are allowed to practice them. The wheel of choice is a great tool to teach children problem solving skills. This tool looks like a pie chart, with 4-8 pieces (depending on your child’s age) that have ideas or solutions for what to do in a given situation. When faced with a challenge, a child can simply look at the chart and pick the solution that works for him.

There are many ways to use the wheel of choice. You can use it to teach children healthy coping strategies, conflict resolution, chores, etc.

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Positive Discipline Parenting Tool - SCHEDULED SPECIAL TIME FOR CONNECTION/TIEMPO ESPECIAL PROGRAMADO

12/9/2020

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One of the most important things we can do for our children is to spend regular, scheduled special time with them. We can spend long days together, yet our attention may be divided and our children’s frustration builds as they realize we are not fully present. Most children will let us know in their own “creative” ways if they feel that we are not giving them the attention that they need. Some will withdraw while others will act out.

Spending scheduled quality time with our children is extremely important for their development and happiness but carving the time isn't always easy. Below are some tips and ideas:

Plan: Brainstorm with your child a list of things that you would like to do together during your special time. Take turns choosing an activity (activities do not need to cost any money or be fancy).

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Positive Discipline Parenting Tool - WINNING COOPERATION/GANANDO COOPERACIÓN

11/19/2020

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Mutual respect is the clue for cooperation. When we ask for cooperation from our children in a kind and respectful way rather than demand it, we find they are much more likely to comply with what we’ve asked. In other words, we get far more cooperation by inviting than demanding (see PD tool #4 - Curiosity Questions).

When we demand by ordering, correcting, and directing, we invite a natural fight or flight response and our chances of winning cooperation greatly decrease. Demands often lead to power struggles, tantrums, distance and hostility. On the other hand, asking respectfully leads to closeness, trust, and cooperation.

There are certain things we can do that greatly increase the chances that kids will cooperate with us. Below are the 3 steps to win cooperation:

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Positive Discipline Parenting Tool - aCTIVE LISTENING/ESCUCHA ACTIVA

10/24/2020

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Active listening is an essential tool of communication and one of the single most important skills you can have in your parenting toolbox. Active listening means observing and listening to feelings and reflecting them back. It means to recognize your child’s words, and more importantly to seek to really understand his underlying message.

For example, when a child says “I hate you, Mommy!” he isn’t saying “I hate you,” he is more likely saying something like, “I am mad that you are spending more time with the new baby than with me.”/ "Me enoja que pases más tiempo con el nuevo bebé que conmigo".

Active listening does not require that you agree with your child’s feelings, but it allows your child to feel connected and understood while creating a caring relationship in which he sees you as being “in his corner.”

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Positive Discipline Parenting Tool - KIND AND FIRM PARENTING/CRIANZA AMABLE Y FIRME

10/6/2020

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Some parents think that being firm is a synonym of being mean and that being kind is a synonym of being permissive. This thought has no foundation. Setting firm and appropriate boundaries is actually an act of kindness. Kindness is important to show respect for your child. Firmness is important to show respect for yourself. You can set firm boundaries in a respectful, loving and kind way. This is a win-win situation!

Being kind and firm is one of the most (if not the most) important tools of Positive Discipline. Some parents are too kind, and not firm. Others are too firm, and not kind. Many parents move between the two being too kind until they can’t stand their children (who develop an entitlement attitude) and then being too firm until they can’t stand themselves (feeling like tyrants). This rollercoaster parenting can be ineffective and confusing to the child.

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Positive Discipline Parenting Tool - TAKE TIME FOR TRAINING/ TOME TIEMPO PARA ENTRENAR

9/24/2020

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Training is an essential part of teaching children life skills. We often ask our children to clean their rooms (for example) and forget that their version of clean and our version of clean are indeed very different. The same thing is true with setting the table, organizing their closets or putting their toys away. We expect them to know how we want things done, without ever taking the time to teach them.

Training is also an important first step in managing children’s behaviors. If your child doesn’t know how to tie his shoes, for example, he might refuse to do it – simply because he does not know how to do it. The solution is simple, teach him how.

A huge part of training is understanding that learning any skill requires a 4 step process:
1 - Explain the task as you do it, while your child watches.

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Positive Discipline Parenting Tool - LIMITED CHOICES/ OPCIONES LIMITADAS

9/21/2020

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Offering limited choices instead of making demands can be very effective. Children often respond to choices when they will not respond to demands. Offering choices is one of the most useful tools we use at Pasitos because it's a win-win solution with young children.

When using this tool, you are offering only choices that are okay with you, so you're happy. Your child gets to pick one that's okay with him/her, so he/she is happy. Now your child is in charge, within your limits. Your child is not in control of much in his/her life so even the smallest opportunity to have some input in a decision is huge.

Giving children choices and empowering them to make their own decisions will help prepare them for life. It will also build respect, develop problem-solving skills, avoid power struggles , teach responsibility and invite cooperation.

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Positive Discipline Parenting Tool - CONNECT & REDIRECT/ CONECTAR & REDIRECCIONAR

9/18/2020

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Children who hear "no" or "don't" all the time tend to tune out. Simply telling your child to stop doing something is not an effective way to stop or change a behavior. So instead of telling your child what not to do, Positive Discipline recommends connecting and redirecting your child by offering a positive behavior to replace the misbehavior.

Redirection is a classic and effective form of discipline, one that works especially well with younger children who might not necessarily understand or listen to reason and logic. For example, a toddler having a tantrum at the grocery store could be asked to help cross out the items on the grocery list, find some of the items and/or organize them in the cart.

It is important to always remember that children don't usually misbehave deliberately (there is a belief behind the behavior). They may be experimenting a particular feeling or going through a specific face or issue.

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Things to say instead of "stop crying"/Qué decir en lugar de "deja de llorar"

Negative Versus Positive Language/Lenguaje Negativo versus Lenguaje Positivo

Create your own calming wheel of choice/crea tu propia rueda de opciones de calma

Positive Discipline Parenting Tool - SCHEDULED SPECIAL TIME FOR CONNECTION/TIEMPO ESPECIAL PROGRAMADO

Positive Discipline Parenting Tool - WINNING COOPERATION/GANANDO COOPERACIÓN

Positive Discipline Parenting Tool - aCTIVE LISTENING/ESCUCHA ACTIVA

Positive Discipline Parenting Tool - KIND AND FIRM PARENTING/CRIANZA AMABLE Y FIRME

Positive Discipline Parenting Tool - TAKE TIME FOR TRAINING/ TOME TIEMPO PARA ENTRENAR

Positive Discipline Parenting Tool - LIMITED CHOICES/ OPCIONES LIMITADAS

Positive Discipline Parenting Tool - CONNECT & REDIRECT/ CONECTAR & REDIRECCIONAR

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